I hadn’t intended to start a blog. What I had intended to do was to write articles for women over 50, and to use humor to get my point across. When the opportunity to write for examiner.com, came up, this gave me a framework within which to write. I wrote my pieces, and after awhile, I had about 40 subscribers. Readers commented. I didn’t answer. (Someone told me that journalists don’t address themselves to readers’ comments.)
After having written almost 100 articles, I thought: Hey, why not throw my examiner.com pieces onto a blog? It won’t involve any new writing. It won’t take up more time than I already spend. So I started Life in the Boomer Lane and I did exactly that. Easy.
But then, a combination of several factors converged to give blogging the edge over writing my Examiner pieces: Examiner wouldn’t publish my pieces that didn’t adhere to their format. I felt constricted. And I was beginning to appreciate the sense of community that blogging afforded.
I didn’t stop writing for Examiner. But I did tell many of my subscribers to switch to my blog. I added non-Examiner-type posts for my blog. I spent a lot of time looking at other blogs and subscribing and reading and commenting. I built up my stats on WordPress, and my stats went down to almost nothing on Examiner.
Here’s where I am now: I spend way more time blogging than doing almost anything else. I check the email account that includes all my blogging comments and bloggers I subscribe to before I check my real estate business email. I keep subscribing to new blogs and then don’t have the time to read the posts. Each time I open my email, I’m afraid to see the dark type of all those unread posts. What started as a fun activity, a diversion, feels more like a chore.
I’ve been wrestling with this for awhile now. And here is my secret fear: If I don’t post regularly, people will stop reading. If I don’t respond to everyone’s blogs, people will stop reading mine. I don’t want any of my actions in life to be fear-based, let alone something that should be a joy.
So, I’m declaring a fear-free zone. I’m going to go back to writing regularly for Examiner. Those pieces will be about Boomer life, written in the third person. I will also continue to blog. Those pieces will be my rants, my personal experiences, my serious pieces. In other words,the nonsense and the wisdom of whatever is in my head atthe moment. I will post links to my Examiner pieces on my blog posts.
And I will both reduce the time I spend reading other blogs and will add even more blogs to my list. There is a lot of amazing stuff outthere and I want to see it. How will I do that? By not commenting on other people’s posts nearly as much as I have been doing. I will usethe“Like” button more, instead of commenting. Or I will read fewer posts of the bloggers I follow. And I will dispel the notion that I must respond to every single comment I get on my blog posts.
If all this means that people will stop reading my posts, so be it. I want to write for the sheer joy of writing, not for thestats. I want to read other people’s posts for thesheer joy of reading and not because I am afraid not to read their posts.
A fear-free zone. Gulp.
Lisa Wields Words
May 17, 2011
If you write, we will be there, whether you respond or not. Good luck on pursuing your dreams. Blogging definitely serves a purpose, but it should not be the be all and end all of ambition.
By the way, it appears the link to examiner.com isn’t working, unless it is my computer.
Amanda Hoving
May 17, 2011
A fear-free zone sounds perfect to me, Renee. Actually, it’s very similar to what I (try) to do. I read all of my favorites, but only comment when I have the time. I used to write for another blog, but gave it up when the time it took to comment, reply, post, etc. made me so crazy that I started to see avatars walking around my house. (Not really. Ok, maybe.)
I will always remain a reader, because you are a fab writer. Good luck in the zone…
pegoleg
May 17, 2011
Like.
hannahjustbreathe
May 17, 2011
Ohhh, don’t I know these feelings well. Blogging is funny business. Even if you scale back, your die-hard readers will still seek you out, whether you’re commenting or not, whether you’re writing five days a week or once a week. Not to worry. Nothing to fear.
Oh, yes, and deep breaths. 🙂
carldagostino
May 17, 2011
I am fortunate to be retired but demands of work and professional publications come first. Hey, 2 or 3 posts a week is a production stat that would impress even Henry Ford. It is hard to come up with cartoon ideas and funny collage work I create for daily posts. Fortunatly, I have a file of 150 more cartoons I have drawn over 35 years and I am surprised that about 10 new ideas arise in most 7-day week periods. So I can keep up. Sometimes I repost with modifications. About a dozen bloggers I follow have expressed your very same thoughts. Much to my great disappointment 3 have given up their blog completely and I now feel that part of my day is missing as well as is that person.
writerwoman61
May 17, 2011
I’m glad you’re going to keep writing, Renée…so many of my blogging buddies have just quit entirely…I miss them!
I have a huge list of blogs which I follow…sometimes it’s hard to balance reading with my own writing…
I still answer every comment left on my blog…I’m Canadian…it’s against the law here not to be polite…
Wendy
Joyce
May 17, 2011
good,good, good for you!
Kathryn McCullough
May 17, 2011
Gosh, Renee, I can sooooooooo relate. I spend more time blogging and reading and commenting than I do anything else. It becomes tedious and overwhelming. I too fear that people will stop reading me, if I don’t read every post everybody writes.
I predict though that no one will stop reading your blog, as it is so damn funny. When I see a post from you, I ckick on it before almost anything else, as I LOVE what you write. Reading your stuff is fun. Your work is compelling. That will never change.
I love your fear-free lane! Hang in there , my fearless friend! You inspire me!
Kathy
Swanlady
May 17, 2011
So many of us read and don’t comment or read, comment and don’t expect or need a response.
For those that do, perhaps they can ask a question at the end of their comment so you ‘ll know they want
you to write back? Glad you will be continuing here as I enjoy your blog a great deal. NRN (no response necessary) 🙂
Elly Lou
May 17, 2011
That’s it. We’re breaking up. But I’m still coming over here to make out with you. It’s always better when it’s illicit, no?
lifeintheboomerlane
May 17, 2011
Wow, that’s a loaded question.
Amy
May 17, 2011
You mean you have a life? You don’t exist for the soul purpose of entertaining me and commenting on my blog?
Some people!
planejaner
May 17, 2011
Renee–
good for you! I think we are all going through this to some degree currently–or have, or will…
I am enjoying a sweet freedom from “shoulding on myself” lately that has been…wonderful.
Fear be darned, and be joyous!
blessings
jane
SisterMerryHellish
May 17, 2011
I have these same fears. But then, as of late, the days I DON”T post end up being the biggest stat-wise, which feels like the internet is passive-aggressively telling me to stop it altogether!
It’ll be alright. It will. The blog and your readers will continue to visit.
I know I will.
Todd Pack
May 17, 2011
Every writer has those anxieties. I think the real trick is posting things people want to read and coming up with a snappy subject line, but there really doesn’t seem to be any rhyme or reason to it. Sometimes, you get a lot of page views, and other days you don’t.
P.S. I’m technically a member of Generation X. Can I still read you?
lifeintheboomerlane
May 17, 2011
I take the entire alphabet.
Lunar Euphoria
May 17, 2011
That sounds reasonable. Do what makes you happy regardless of stats!
winsomebella
May 17, 2011
I am noticing a pattern here. I am late to this blogging party and discovering that many of the bloggers I am lining up to follow are at a crossroads. Bogged down with blogging. Certainly understandable but fear not! You will be followed regardless of when and where, for you are worth it.
Margie
May 17, 2011
Last week I wrote a post called “Complaints Department – Too Many Words”. It echoes your issues, concerns and plans. I hope I keep as many faithful followers as you seem to have!
territerri
May 18, 2011
That is exactly how it should be. Blogging can be such a Catch 22 sometimes. We all figure out what a joy it is to write, and then as a result, connect with others. We sit and wait for those comments to roll in. We find other blogs and leave comments and it all becomes so addicting. It was really a relief for me to read this today. I fell behind on my reader in the past week and no matter how hard I try, I cannot catch up! I needed permission to use the “Mark all as read” key!
Patricia
May 18, 2011
It is hard to find a balamce. When this blogging thing becomes a chore it is time to (re)evaluate and make adjustments. Good for you for doing just this.
TheIdiotSpeaketh
May 18, 2011
Good for you! The day I no longer get any joy from blogging, I will happily walk away. Enjoy your new journey! 🙂
georgettesullins
May 18, 2011
So glad I bumped into you and “Life in the Boomer Lane.” My husband and I enjoy reading…whether you comment or not…and of course will continue to look for you. Thank you for your generous time in responding (in the past few weeks) as I know you have tons of readers.
kim sisto robinson
May 18, 2011
~~~Oh, boy, do I get it.
I have subscribed to my favoirte blogs, then I’m like “how the hell will I read all of these & comment” etc…
Here’s what I’d like to do: Quite my day job– & BLOG. Write. Comment on other Blogs. Read.
I wonder if that’s possible 🙂
do you actually get decent money writing for the Examiner?
lifeintheboomerlane
May 18, 2011
Examiner pays almost nothing. Depending on how many hits you get, they pay maybe 1/2 to 1 cent per hit. I could see that the really popular Examiners who get thousands of hits could make some money. But I do it to accumulate enough pieces to maybe send them somewhere for publication.
Alaina
May 18, 2011
I’ve always been impressed by your responses to almost every commenter, and I’ve often wondered where the heck you get the time to do that.
I understand the blog/career quandary, and I do see my blog as an extension of my brand as a writer, and enjoy interacting with readers on it. As with you, my blog is also a zone without assignments, word-counts and someone else’s parameters (perhaps it’s not always the better for it, but I and my readers are having fun so far).
I have always appreciated your visits/comments to my blog. Read me or read me not, your blog is still quality stuff and I’ll continue to keep up with it.
lifeintheboomerlane
May 18, 2011
Thanks, Alaina. I put some effort into my comments, especially the serious ones. So reading someone’s post is only half the time it takes. I really do try to add something of value, even if it’s just a laugh.
Sigrid Rogowski
May 18, 2011
I will not STOP reading your posts.I like them and I am learning from you and all the other posts.I am still so very new in the world of bloggers.
Ashley S.C. Walls
May 18, 2011
YAY! Congrats on finding out how to add share buttons! Now I can like yours without having to comment.
THANKS! AND ENJOY YOUR NEW STRATEGIES
Sigrid Rogowski
May 18, 2011
I will try and do me best
deliriouslydivine
May 18, 2011
I totally get it. There are 78 unread emails in my blog-reading email! The people who are already hooked on your stuff will return and return.. I promise to! And, the whole response thing, while very nice, isn’t necessary. I can see when you’ve read one of my posts and haven’t commented.. and it doesn’t matter.
I’m in a bit of overwhelm at the moment as well… I think it’s cyclical.
comingeast
May 18, 2011
Blogging can take over your life, can’t it! You have to remind yourself why you started blogging in the first place, and if it was so you would keep writing, then that should be enough. It is nice, however, to know that people are reading and enjoying your efforts.
Tori Nelson
May 18, 2011
Do exactly what makes you happy. I mostly live by this, too, except for cleaning and grocery shopping which I’m told have to be done whether I like it or not 🙂
Debbie
May 18, 2011
I so understand where you’re coming from and applaud you for your bravery. As the song goes, we have to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em! I think the answer is Balance, which isn’t an easy thing to accomplish. I’m glad you’re not going to quit blogging in entirety, for I enjoy your posts; however, as someone who also has a day job, I realize there are only so many hours one can stare at a computer screen. Best of luck — and you’d better report back on how this thing’s going for you!