The following is a guest post :
Love is a very mysterious, broad and inexplicable emotion. To love someone today does not guarantee that you will love the person the same way few years or even months from now. You may love them less, you may love them more or you may no longer love them at all – and the only thing that you can do is watch and feel your emotions as it change every single day.
Maintaining a relationship is another thing. It takes two people to keep a relationship healthy. You need to work things out to keep your relationship happy and healthy – eventually keeping the love alive.
So many couples easily breakup these days. Even married couples decide to divorce so quickly. One moment you see them happy and very much in-love, the next thing you know they are checking out Prime Lawyers and talking to some divorce attorneys. It really is very disappointing and disheartening.
So for new couples out there, here are some tips on how to maintain your relationship happy:
Be honest with each other – as cliché as it may sound, honesty is always the best policy. You should make sure to be always honest with one another. Dishonesty, lies and secrets destroy a good relationship. You should make sure to tell one another important things or even the not so important things. In this way, you will be able to establish an honest relationship with one another wherein you do not feel the need to keep secrets from each other. Transparency, after all is the secret to long lasting relationship.
Maintain good communication – speaking of being honest, you should maintain good communication too. You may be busy with your work, business, school or other activities but at the end of the day, you should try to communicate with one another. It is important that you communicate your feelings. Tell your partner if you feel bad and why. Do not try to keep them guessing. It will just create misunderstanding that could yield to irreparable damage. So be open and talk things out.
Learn to trust one another – trust is very precious and if you love someone, you will give them your trust. And in return, you must do your best to earn your significant other’s trust too. It is always two-way in a relationship. Trust so you will be trusted.
Understand each other’s shortcomings – you must understand that every person has different personalities, characteristics, manners and beliefs. You may be in a relationship together but that does not mean that you should be the same in every way. You must understand that each person has shortcomings and if you are in a relationship, you will discover these shortcomings one by one and when you do, you must learn to accept and understand.
Maintain some space – lastly, try to keep some space from each other. You should learn how to have your own life too outside the relationship. This way, you can learn more things that you can share with one another. Do not treat as if your whole world is revolving around your relationship and your partner. It will suffocate you eventually. So try to maintain some activities or hobbies on your own.
Nobody is perfect, the same way that not all relationships are perfect and smooth sailing all the time. You should exert effort to make it work. It should be a constant effort until it becomes natural in your relationship.
You should always remember that it is not always about the good times. Of course, you will experience bad days but the thing is that you need to find a way to get through those bad days together.