Back in the 1950s, the US, having just survived a horrific war, settled down and chose a general as President. The theme was order and prosperity. The small world that Life in the Boomer Lane inhabited consisted of school, family and friends. The first two were orderly and predictable. School, above all, was a place of order.
Enter Joseph Diamond, a boy who was about six inches taller than anyone else in the class, and obviously much older. From the vantage point that LBL has now, she realizes that Joseph Diamond was a candidate for special ed, in an era when special ed didn’t exist. Joseph sat in his seat each day and stared blankly at the teacher. Nobody knew what he was thinking, and nobody cared to know.
One day, the teacher said something that Joseph didn’t like (LBL can no longer recall what that would have been). Joseph quietly stood up and pulled his shoes and socks off. He held the socks for a moment, then threw them in the direction of the teacher. LBL also can’t recall if the socks even hit their mark. Most likely, they didn’t. But that didn’t matter.
To say that the class was shocked was an understatement. In a world in which teachers were treated with respect, even teachers not liked, Joseph Diamond set the known universe on its head. The class sat speechless. The teacher ran out of the room, crying. Joseph sat back down at his desk quietly, as always. With one hurl of his large socks, Joseph had upset the order of the known universe.
Our world is orderly, less because of laws, than because of human beings’ natural instinct to be orderly. Most of us stop at red lights, even when there is no traffic in the oncoming direction and no one to observe our actions. We wait in lines. We tell friends that their grandchildren are beautiful. We cheat less on our taxes than most other people around the world do.
We expect our president to follow the same kind of orderly norms Not only do we crave predictability, but we crave leadership. We’d like our leaders to be a bit more intelligent than we are, a bit wiser, a bit more capable. We may rant about them, just as we ranted about teachers we didn’t like. But we know that, given the opportunity to inhabit their position, many of our own decisions would be flawed.
The news now is filled, not with the wisdom or capability of the soon-to-be leader of this country, but rather of the litany of norms he has disregarded. As each breach is made, we realize more and more that norms are not laws. There are simply too many of them to be regulated. We obey the law, but we follow the norm. There is huge difference.
People talk about this disregard as the “new norm.” LBL respectfully disagrees. One disregard of a norm does not create a new norm. It creates a red flag. We can choose to ignore the red flag, or we can voice our opposition.
Demeaning journalists and the publications they write for is not a new norm. It is an affront to free speech. Naming candidates for the cabinet whose only qualifications are a disregard for the departments they will head is not a new norm. It is an erosion of the government’s role to serve the people. Cultivating an alliance with a foreign power that has meddled in the election process is not a new norm. It is a blatant attempt to shift the balance of power across Europe, at the risk of international law. Collapsing family and personal business with the business of State is not a new norm. It is a conflict of interest. Dismissing the reality of climate change is not the new norm. It is the willful acceleration of the death of the planet.
There is no one moment when it is proper to react. Neither is it possible to react to everything. But it is possible to see that the ultimate goal here is less in serving the people than it is to magnify the power of the office. While people patiently wait for jobs and for prosperity, the greater emphasis will be on enhancing the benefits to those in charge. LBL, for one, will not call that a new norm. And, unlike her classroom teacher, she will not go crying out of the room. The stakes are too high.
Roxanne Jones
December 15, 2016
Amen, sister. I’m with you on this 100%. Here’s what I wrote about it this week on Boomer Haiku: “A Visit from Trumplethinskin”—a new twist on the Christmas classic “A Visit from St. Nicholas” http://boomerhaiku.com/twas-month-post-election/
Roxanne Jones Freelance writer specializing in health & medicine Hurley Communications 207.829.2023 (office) 207.607.0210 (cell) roxanne@hurleycomm.com http://www.hurleycomm.com
Anonymous
December 15, 2016
So very true. It’s unfortunate that so many people are taking a wait and see approach. I’m still not sure what they are waiting for. Everything that he is doing will hurt the people that voted for him. It is going to be a very, very sad reckoning for them and the saddest truth is that they will find a way to blame the people that really want to help them. The Russians are running our country, the fossil fuel industry will hold the greatest sway in DC, the financial institutions will take another run at completely destroying our economy and the wealth gap will grow. This is the stuff of revolution…or complete dystopia. Time (and not alot of it) will tell.
Go Jules Go
December 15, 2016
Thank you for this!!! But wait. WE’RE causing climate change? I think the liberal media just made that up.
Donna Cameron
December 15, 2016
Very well-stated, LBL, thank you. People who believe these are acceptable new norms are either extremely naïve or counting on being beneficiaries of the new despotic regime. If anything good is emerging from this, it is the commitment of countless numbers of us who will stand up strongly an vocally to authoritarianism and injustice—for as long as it takes.
Life in the Boomer Lane
December 16, 2016
Great comment, Donna. We have a voice and we must keep using it.
Andrew Reynolds
December 15, 2016
Well said.
Life in the Boomer Lane
December 16, 2016
Thanks, Andrew.
Keith
December 15, 2016
Renee, great post. I was taught that if you bullied another or shouted down their argument, your argument must be poor. Anyone who openly disagrees with our President-elect or dares asks him questions or criticizes him, is made out to be a demon via Tweet, which in turn releases the hounds on that person. The one who disagrees gets death threats and ridicule.
This reminds me of the Dixie Chicks not supporting our invasion of Iraq and they were vilified as un-American and folks were asked to boycott their concerts. Let’s set aside the fact the Dixie Chicks’ argument was in the right as we invaded a country under false pretenses and shaped reconnaissance, but even if they were not, this is the United States of America, and we have every right to question our President.
For our President-elect to single out dissenters bullying them into submission, shows his arguments (and his thin-skinned ego) cannot stand up to criticism. Neither are admirable traits for our leader, even if his name was John Smith.
Keith
Gail
December 15, 2016
Agreed. In the U.S., we have the right – and responsibility – to question our leaders.
Life in the Boomer Lane
December 16, 2016
Thanks for these comments, Keith. Trump considers himself a master negotiator, and I know enough now about his business practices to see that he is using the same tactics on a national stage that he used to employ with his business dealings. The difference is that in business, the failure results in bankruptcy, while on the national stage, the failure results in war.
Keith
December 16, 2016
Renee, his 4,000 + lawsuits, which average out to over 1 1/2 per week during a 45 year career, indicate one way he bullies people, through lawsuit, threatened lawsuit, or counter lawsuit. He routinely stiffed people, per an attorney he worked with, under the guise of not paying for inferior service. The attorney said he understood not wanting to pay for bad service, but his former boss used it as a routine tactic. So, many a small business person would sue him, often to be countersued and outgunned by Trump’s high powered attorneys. This unfortunately for all of us is a true representation of our President-elect’s modus operandi. Keith
BABYBOOMER johanna van zanten
December 15, 2016
Can wholeheartedly agree with that. Well done.
Johanna
Life in the Boomer Lane
December 16, 2016
Thanks, Johanna.
Retirementallychallenged.com
December 15, 2016
Beautifully said. Thank you for putting to words what so many of us are struggling with.
Life in the Boomer Lane
December 16, 2016
Thanks. Many of us are still struggling. Each day is an assault to our senses.
Patricia Rose
December 15, 2016
Bravo! Well said!
Life in the Boomer Lane
December 16, 2016
Thanks, Patricia, and thanks for reading.
Elyse
December 15, 2016
Great post. Duck and cover for the next four years. Sigh.
Life in the Boomer Lane
December 16, 2016
Thanks, Elyse, and perfect reference.
patread517
December 16, 2016
Thank you, LBL, for making this powerful distinction–we must look to our deeply-held values to determine what actions are ethical and moral, not to celebrities or politicians. Based on that, I recommend that we all unfollow Trump’s twitter account, if we were ever following him, so that the reach of his voice gets diminished.
aginggracefullymyass
December 16, 2016
Wow! This piece blew me away. Thank you for your powerful words LBL!