Life in the Boomer Lane will be writing a series of senior dating articles for seniormatch.com. She will share each of those here first, before the folks at seniormatch publish them. Lucky you. Here goes:
People are fond of telling their single friends who complain about their difficulty in meeting people, “You can meet someone anywhere, even the grocery store!” Until now, this belief had women going to supermarkets in full hair and make up, standing hopefully in the produce section and waiting for Mr Right to come along. But, thanks to the advent of mobile online dating, singles can now go to the supermarket and bring home more than bananas.
Matchmaking is nothing new. It can be dated back to the first time a man was felled by a mammoth and his unfortunate partner was subsequently told by a friend, “Have I got a guy for you!” Over the millennia, matchmaking became a more orderly process, and matchmakers were valued members of society. That was pretty much how things went for hundreds/thousands of years, until technology came along.
It would be impossible to argue the fact that online dating revolutionized the way people meet and formed relationships. Most of us know someone who is involved with online dating, and many of us know people who are now partnered or married as a result. What started back in the mid-1990’s as something many considered weird and scary, is now mainstream.
Until recently, the popular image of an online dater was a person seated in front of their computer screen, wearing pajamas, and staring at endless potential matches, while drinking coffee/eating pizza/petting their dog. But this reality, like every other rapidly changing reality of technology, is changing. Online daters, like mostly everyone else in the general population, live their lives in a mobile way. And dating shouldn’t be any different.
Seniormatch, one of the giants of online dating for those of us who may have been introduced to the world of dating back in the Nixon Administration (hopefully, with a better outcome), premiered in 2001. It went mobile in 2012, and it has never looked back. In the last few months alone, 23% of new sign ups have come from mobile users. Two years ago, that figure was 13%.
And there are predictable differences between stationary users of the service and mobile users. One is the frequency of use. Mobile users use the service 20% more than stationary users. Seniormatch has made the finding-someone-in-the-supermarket myth a reality. Along with the bank, the post office, the dry cleaners. Wherever you are, in whatever time you have, you can be scrolling for potential mates.
Seniormatch and its mobile technology (m.seniormatch and SeniorMatch App) will get you started. The rest is up to you.
btg5885
March 16, 2015
Renee, before folks embellish too much on describing themselves, they must watch “Must Love Dogs.” Two moments stick out – Stockard Channing’s character had a different personality on different sites to cover her bets. Christopher Plummer’s character embellished his age so much, he accidentally met his daughter on a blind date – well they both loved poetry. Fortunately, unless my wife kicks me out, I am good for now as I would hate to have to hide my faults to court – it would be too hard. Best wishes to all, BTG
Life in the Boomer Lane
March 17, 2015
There are so many funny stories about how people misrepresent themselves on dating sites. I’ve never understood what the point is. I mean, at some point, you have to show yourself in person, right?
btg5885
March 18, 2015
At some point, there is proof in the pudding. Maybe the dating site should include a section on your faults. If it is empty, then the site what let you go on to the next section.
Life in the Boomer Lane
March 19, 2015
Funny. And brilliant.
valentinelogar
March 16, 2015
I admit to thinking dating sites full of crazy people. Then a friend convinced me to try one, know I don’t just think it, I know for certain.
Life in the Boomer Lane
March 17, 2015
There are some crazies out there. But there are a lot of good people, also. Now Husband and I met on a dating site and I know others who have done the same. It can happen.
JackieP
March 16, 2015
If I had to choose between staying single and a dating site, I would stay single. lol
Life in the Boomer Lane
March 17, 2015
I hear this all the time from people. Yet the numbers keep increasing for people using dating sites.
Susan in TX
March 16, 2015
I had no idea there were mobile apps!. Makes so much sense . . .
“Lonely DWM, 61, seeks active companionship, must love war movies, currently waiting in Aisle 16 by the plungers.”
This is SO going in my next book. Makes me smile.
Life in the Boomer Lane
March 17, 2015
Love your come on. Back in the day before online dating, when people posted personals in newspapers, I wrote “Looking for a man who knows his way around Home Depot.” I got a huge response.
Susan in TX
March 17, 2015
Like. This should go in the next book, too!
Life in the Boomer Lane
March 19, 2015
The funny thing was that men would tell me they interpreted what I wrote as me saying I liked Home Depot because I knew how to fix things. I said no, I can’t fix anything. I need someone else to do it, and hiring someone is too expensive.
chlost
March 16, 2015
I’m not sure that this is unusual, but two of my three children, my sister, and my brother (who at age 50 will marry for the first time) have all found their partners via online dating sites. I don’t know that I’d ever want to date again at my age. But if I were ever back in that situation, I’d certainly try the dating sites.
Life in the Boomer Lane
March 17, 2015
It’s not unusual at all, and I am thrilled to hear you say this. Online dating CAN work, in spite of the jokes. I found Now Husband, and he is a gem. Just don’t tell him I said that, or he will stop behaving.
gliderpilotlee
March 16, 2015
Was there a song about this? The guy has great abs, plays tuba in a marching band, a head of hair. grows about 6″ every time he goes online?
Ok, just had to read your blog on dating, carry on, always fun.
Life in the Boomer Lane
March 17, 2015
Thanks, Lee. Funny. Yes, many men increase in height as soon as they go online.
gliderpilotlee
March 18, 2015
Here’s a solution. You girls could demand your date keep his mobile device on when you are taking a walk in public. Just as long as he’s online- he be perfect..
Anonymous
March 16, 2015
Well, if the dating sites are full of crazy people, count me in. I tried it when I got divorced 12 years ago and it was a lot of work to cull through all the guys that weren’t right, but I found a good one that lasted 10 years. He did, in fact, end up going quite literally crazy and he is still struggling with that. We broke up when he went to the mental hospital. It had nothing to do with the fact that I found him on a dating website. Now I’m dating another great guy that I found online. He has his issues, but so do I. At over 60, we are trying hard to adapt to the requirements of loving someone again at this late age. All I can say is, where else can you match up your own list of interests and requirements with someone else’s and actually find a list of people within your local proximity (or not) to give a try? Some people go to the grocery store or try finding someone in church or a bar. I haven’t had any luck with that. The odds of bumping into someone who meets my needs is just too slim. I’m not willing to give up on love.
Life in the Boomer Lane
March 17, 2015
Love these comments. You are right. Where else can you meet someone who matches you (in theory) and lives close by? When I divorced, a bar was the last place I would go, I wasn’t a member of a church, and no one came forward to fix me up with anyone. I met some great men online and always had good first meetings. Then Now Husband came along. So I’m a fan of online dating.
ermigal
June 17, 2015
Thanks for the encouragement, LBL, I’m getting disheartened with it so far, but will keep trying. Late-in-life divorce is not fun but so much happier. And why, oh why, do so many men think the Duck Dynasty look is a turn-on? Great post. 🙂