
African Americans have endured what few people have. Ancestors were ripped away from the civilizations that created and nurtured them. Centuries later, traditions and the anchors people had to those who came before have been lost. The country that forced African Americans here didn’t want them after freedom was grudgingly given. They became a mystery and a burden and a threat.
In spite of all this, they survived. Their achievements have been remarkeable, especially given that the result of such achievements has been, for the most part, either surprise or resentment from those who hold the power.
Hand in hand with the achievements has been the anger, the kind of anger that is usually set aside in the name of survival. The kind of anger that is sometimes turned into humor, because harsh words are better digested by people who are laughing. The kind of anger that, when released, is mostly harmful to its own community.
Thankfully, the anger, for the most part, is in the form of words. Then something happens that, for some, has no words that are big enough or substantional enough or strong enough to release the feelings. It may be, for a small number, that they aren’t even looking for the words. It may be that the anger they have experienced all their lives has simply become who they are.
Most of these people are young, and they are male. They are the very people that the greater society has always feared. They are the ones we avoid when we are coming down the street in the evening and see them in the distance, headed toward us. They are the ones we don’t answer the door to. They are the ones who have been taught from childhood that their very existance is seen as a danger to people.
When anger turns violent, we can see nothing but the violence. And when that happens, many of us simply want the violence to stop. We don’t analyze. We don’t try to understand. In this time of extreme reaction and extreme fear, our reaction can be as destructive as the shattered storefronts and burning cars that parade across our TV and laptop screens.
That is the easy answer. The more complicated one is that, while anger is usually the catalyst for destruction, the source of that anger and the ensuing destruction can be elusive. While it can certainly come from within, what many of us are experiencing now is an awareness that most of the people who are expressing the anger are not doing so because they, themselves, have been marginalized. It is, instead, an anger born of a fear that those who have been marginalized will no longer be so. That they will displace others in the society who deserve to be there. That they, in their long-fought-for equality will somehow marginalize those who have the god-given right to be the ones in charge.
That is the most chilling and destructive form of anger. It’s an anger that arms a seventeen-year-old boy and rewards him, not for achievements in academics or in sports, but for murder. It’s an anger that creates groups who travel across the country and create mayhem in places in which people gather or march solely in the name of human dignity. It’s an anger that results in Facebook posts that present entirely false data about the number of police killed, fires set, businesses destroyed. It’s an anger stoked by a president, who needs the anger so that he can bill himself as the law and order president. Without the anger, he has no agenda.
It is tragic that this kind of anger may cause us to miss the opportunity to set things right. The opportunity to create a society that enables young black people to become something other than either villians or victims. The opportunity that this country can be better than the best of us, as long as all of the best of us can work together. We can’t do this unless the true source of the destructive anger is revealled. We must find a way to do this, because the alternatve will bring us all down, no matter which side we are on.
Andrew Reynolds
September 1, 2020
Yes, we have to do better or this will become normal.
Life in the Boomer Lane
September 4, 2020
And so much has already become “normal.” We live within a fragile agreement of how things should be. This man has shown us that by ignoring the agreement, we simply either gasp or applaud. The result is the same: We are doomed.
Bob
September 1, 2020
Your last paragraph says it all. We are squandering the potential greatness of this country. It is so sad. What is sadder still? We have three older children. Only one is married and our grandchild does not live in this country – for which we are grateful. We commented to each other recently that we are thankful we have no grandchildren in this country. We discovered that we are not alone in this sentiment. There is a sense of hopelessness growing in America. How sad is that?
Life in the Boomer Lane
September 4, 2020
Mental illness is skyrocketing, as is substance abuse. We are destroying ourselves in so many ways, I have lost count.
bone&silver
September 2, 2020
My condolences to your country- Trump is murdering it- I don’t know what else to say 😢
Great post, thank you 🙏🏼
Life in the Boomer Lane
September 4, 2020
Thanks. Yes, he is murdering this country. We are now discovering, too late, that our Achilles Heel have been far larger than we suspected.
Peter's pondering
September 2, 2020
I echo Bob’s comments from across the pond. We have no grandchildren, and there will be none, and we are thankful. What a sad state of affairs that is.
Life in the Boomer Lane
September 4, 2020
I worry constantly about the world my grandchildren are growing up in.
Keith
September 2, 2020
Renee, first and foremost, thanks for writing this. The significant majority of protests are civil, attended by multiple races, and inspiring. The reaction is very favorable as this is overdue. Those few who are wreaking violence are in the minority, but they do exist. Violence is not the answer. Gandhi and MLK showed that by actions. Violence also feeds into a president who divides Americans. He looks for props to create wedges.
As General James Mattis, Trump’s former Secretary of Defense, said, the president does not even try to unite us. His narcissistic bent makes him focus far too much on how things make him look. Actually being a uniting leader who solves problems is secondary to looking good.
This independent and former GOP voter feels the president needs to put down his gasoline can and stop stoking fires. I am not alone, as an Alternate Republican Convention occurred in Charlotte last week, bringing together Republican Voters against Trump, Republicans for the Rule of Law and The Lincoln Project. It should be noted that the national GOP did not vote on a platform at the Trump convention. One reporter said the platform is whatever Trump says it is. That is not a party, that is a cult.
Keith
Life in the Boomer Lane
September 4, 2020
Trump’s only agenda is that he, alone, protects people from what they fear. His only requirement is to keep the fear alive. We have many rational voices out there. But cults don’t listen to rational voices. They only respond to the leader. If this man is re-elected, we are done. And i don’t say that lightly.
Keith
September 4, 2020
Renee, The Military Times reported a survey that said Trump is underwater by 12% on his favorability rating (49% are disfavorable against 37% who are). They also favor Biden 41% to 37%. That was before the report from two sources that said Trump called those missing or killed in action “loser and suckers.” Whether he said this, it is very believable he would. We cannot forget he said John McCain was not a hero because he was captured. When the moderator gave him a chance to correct this statement, he stuck with his comment.
What I cannot figure out is a credible report said Trump was briefed the Russians were putting a bounty on US soldiers with the Taliban. Sadly, the story became whether he was briefed or not (it was in his briefing papers), not the horrific nature of the claim. This is not leadership. This in someone who threw his intelligence people under the bus to side with Putin Helsinki, as well as this Taliban episode.
Keith
Ilona Elliott
September 11, 2020
And The Military Times was promptly defunded.