A few days ago, I started an online search for local volunteer opportunities. I always prefer working directly with people, and my most enjoyable and rewarding volunteer work to date has been tutoring pregnant teens, in a program that helps them complete their high school education. In addition to the academics, I always valued the side conversations we had, in which I was able to speak to them about life choices and the issues they were having. I’ve been humbled and brought to tears over the circumstances most of them come from and the brave choices each has made to put education first in their lives.
My search took me to Elder Wisdom Circle. There I stopped. The name, alone, conjured up everything I have believed to be true. I have my own way of describing such wisdom. It’s called perspective. It is the strongest asset we have when we navigate our lives at this time, as well as when we interact with a much younger world.
I eagerly read on. “The ElderWisdomCircleTM is an online inter-generational program pairing advice seekers with a network of seniors (“Elders”) who provide empathetic, caring, and supportive advice based on their own life experiences.
Elders answer advice letters via the Internet, offering readers of younger generations free, personalized advice on a wide range of topics—love and relationships, family and child-rearing, career and self-improvement, and more.”
It’s brilliant in its simplicity. An online pairing of those who have navigated the roads of life with those who are still in the process. EWC makes it very clear that they do not give medical, legal or financial advice. All of their advice comes from real seniors, based on the wisdom that have accumulated over time.
It had my name on it.
Elder Wisdom Circle was started in 2001 and now has 600 Elders (aged 60 to 105) across North America. It’s an IRS 501(c)3 nonprofit member association and is completely volunteer run. To date, it has addresses 300,000 questions from people across the country.
The application, itself, was an eye opener. Part of it consisted of reading samples of about six actual questions submitted by people and writing responses to two of them. The questions included a child whose parents were in the process of divorcing, a man whose marriage was unraveling, a twenty-year-old who felt that he was already at a dead-end in life, a young mom who couldn’t control her two-year-old.
I read these short inquiries over and over. I was bursting with the desire to answer them all. In addition, is a commitment to check in with the site on a regular basis and to be willing to answer several letters a month. Perfect for my unpredictable real estate schedule. I immediately filled out the application and am now awaiting word to see if I have been accepted as an Elder. Even the thought of being called Elder Renee lends gravitas to my life.
I’ll keep you posted as to my progress. And I urge any of you aged 60 and over to take a look at the website and consider applying to be an Elder.
notquiteold
November 15, 2014
I love to give advice, but then I fret over it terribly. What if I’m wrong? What if the person takes my advice and her life gets WORSE? But I don’t know why I worry so much… I am NEVER wrong…
Good luck!
Life in the Boomer Lane
November 17, 2014
Wow, most people throw out advice liberally, even when not asked. And they are wrong a lot.
Taswegian1957
November 15, 2014
What a brilliant idea. I do hope you are accepted.
Life in the Boomer Lane
November 17, 2014
Thanks. Advice cells are jamming my brain, just waiting to be used.
katecrimmins
November 15, 2014
This sounds like a marvelous idea. I once volunteered for a hot line for women. It wasn’t for abuse but women looking to get out of situations or get back into the business world. It was an eye opener.
Life in the Boomer Lane
November 17, 2014
That sounds fascinating. I once manned a hotline for missing and exploited children. Another eye-opener.
chlost
November 15, 2014
This is an amazing idea. I hope you are accepted. You would be great at it. I have shared it on my FB page. I am not quite old enough yet to be considered an elder for this, so I guess I will have to continue to amass more life experience in order to be ready to give my spot-on advice. 🙂
Life in the Boomer Lane
November 17, 2014
Thanks for sharing!
Ellyn
November 15, 2014
LBL and all you “elders” out there. Another brilliant elder organization that is just getting started is called Conscious Elders Network. We are concerned about the legacy we are leaving our grandchildren.. the environment, the politics, economic and social justice just to name a few. We are applying our wisdom, our energy and our passion to tackling these issues, en masse! We are a talented, resourceful bunch and a powerful voting block. If not us, who? Check us out at consciouselders.org and join in the fun, the challenge and the rewards! (Acceptance guaranteed!)
Life in the Boomer Lane
November 17, 2014
I just checked them out and applied to that as well. I feel such a great sense of power to be part of a group of older people who want to make a difference in the world. Reminds me of my time back in the 60s (the years, not the age) when I was wearing an armband and marching.
Retirementallychallenged.com
November 15, 2014
What a fabulous idea. I think you’d be terrific at it! Once accepted, would you only get questions that you are best suited to answer (for instance, I would have no idea how to control a two-year old)?
Life in the Boomer Lane
November 17, 2014
Interesting question. Part of the application was to indicate which issues one was most interested in giving advice on. I assumed that those would be the categories of questions I’d be asked.
ermigal
November 15, 2014
What an enlightening post, LBL. A great concept to share wisdom that we have garnered through the years, sometimes learning it the hard way. Our culture hasn’t maintained the reverence for this elder guidance, perhaps this is a step in that direction. Good luck on your new venture, and I will check it out myself! 🙂
Life in the Boomer Lane
November 17, 2014
Thanks, and yes, I totally agree. Elder wisdom is a huge resource that isn’t being tapped. Let me know if you apply, as well.
Eileen Adickes
November 15, 2014
Marvelous idea! I may check into it.
Life in the Boomer Lane
November 17, 2014
Yippee!
btg5885
November 16, 2014
Thank you, oh wise one. See you have already started your sage advice.
Life in the Boomer Lane
November 17, 2014
Smiling, btg. Several years ago, I had my horoscope done by some grand poobah of such things. The horoscope was filled with diagrams, arrows, notations, etc. I was completely unable to make any sense of it. But I did figure out that my “sage cycle” would occur when I was well into my 80s. I figured all the folks at the nursing home would benefit.
btg5885
November 17, 2014
Renee, we shall appoint you “Knower of All Things” and give you a wizard’s cap. I just hope to make it to 80 with all parts working without Advil help.
savingthebestforlast
November 17, 2014
I read this post after sending you my email commenting on your volunteer choice. It’s perfect for you! You are a great coach and very wise woman!
Life in the Boomer Lane
November 27, 2014
Thank you, my dear friend.