Back in the Dark Ages of online dating, it was believed that dating sites were populated mainly by serial killers. Life in the Boomer Lane, a firm believer that even serial killers deserved to find true love, signed up for the service immediately. Her friends were horrified. The horror went to even higher levels when LBL started meeting men for coffee dates. The horror went into full tilt boogie mode when LBL, seizing an opportunity to meet a tall, part Native American who sported a long ponytail, hopped on a plane for the wilds of Wisconsin. LBL’s friends first had to vet the man by demanding to speak to his friends. And, while LBL was gone, she had to call each one of them at a scheduled time, to tell them she was alive and well.
While online dating has now, years later, gone mainstream, it’s not without its perils. Or, at the very least, its annoyances. LBL’s friends, all Women of a Certain Age, complain about being constantly contacted by twenty-something-year-old men. For those 50+ year old readers who are now about to blitz this post in order to go onto an online site, LBL assures you that the emails these women are getting are not indicative ones that portend loving, supportive, long term relationships. They are not even indicative of ones that portend loving, supportive, short term romps in clean sheets. They are more on the order of men looking for a quick trip to a circus side show.
For those women who prefer men who have left puberty behind several decades ago, many join senior dating sites. Senior dating sites are not only age-appropriate for women, they are populated by men who aren’t searching to fulfill a fantasy of being with a women who has recently stopped sleeping with stuffed animals.
The good news is that we now have choices in online dating sites. The problem is that there are so many online dating sites now, that it’s sometimes difficult to know which is best for you. Thankfully, there are now review sites that rank the top dating sites, based on site features, member feedback, cost, etc. These online dating reviews can be a real time-saver in the hunt for the perfect online dating site. Once you have found the perfect online dating site, the rest is up to you.
Of course, for those older women who would still prefer to be with a man who has a grandma fetish, or who believes that the higher a woman’s age is correlates with the number of sex toys she owns, there are any number of places where one can meet them. The beauty of online dating is that there is something for everyone, maybe even a perfect match.
And, for those readers who are wondering whatever happened to the tall, part-American Indian with a long ponytail, LBL can happily report that she traded him in for a medium height, part-Turk with thinning (but still sexy) hair. Thank you, online dating.
Val Boyko
August 11, 2015
Funny! I can relate. I traded my tall dark and handsome narcissist Doctor who turned out to be gay .. for a passionate, short, funny, quirky Italian who cooks and loves to take care of me. Thank you Match.com!
geezenslaw
August 12, 2015
You got married to this guy correct? In this case match.com does what it is designed to do. Not all of us enjoy the marriageable status unfortunately so there must exist other avenues.
Life in the Boomer Lane
August 12, 2015
You did well, Val. I met Now Husband on Match, as well. It can work.
Judy
August 11, 2015
Oh my, LBL. You appropriated my story. As a woman of a certain age, I finally tired of hearing from widowers looking for a replacement for their perfect, deceased wives and stopped searching. But I suppose there could be a part-Turk out there somewhere for me. Love your blog. Thanks!
geezenslaw
August 12, 2015
Though your generalization is somewhat accurate just remember there are those that want something between a Rhonda Rousey and a Jewish Pagan Witch belly dancer the type of which the widower was never married to…
Life in the Boomer Lane
August 12, 2015
Keep searching, Judy. He’s out there. And thanks!
btg5885
August 11, 2015
People need to watch the movie “Must Love Dogs” before going online to date.
Life in the Boomer Lane
August 12, 2015
And I must watch that movie.
LauraBelle
August 11, 2015
I have never dated online. I admit I am one of those people who is afraid I will end up locked in some freaks basement, but my brother met his wife online, so I know it does work.
Life in the Boomer Lane
August 12, 2015
It does work. I’d make a joke about the basement, but I just finished reading a book with that theme (not about online dating, though). Ugh.
Jane Newton Henry
August 11, 2015
Don’t get me started!
Life in the Boomer Lane
August 12, 2015
Yes, get started, Jane!
Jane Newton Henry
August 12, 2015
I have posted about my online dating experiences a couple of times on my blog.
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geezenslaw
August 12, 2015
OGDI! LBL at each paragraph just at the point of recovering from my laughing fit there was the next paragraph! .. quick trip to a circus side show.. Really LBL? Hard to type now. ‘men who aren’t searching to fulfill a fantasy of being with a women who has recently stopped sleeping with stuffed animals’ OGDI more laughing… ” and not to be remiss: ‘…[someone] believes that the higher a woman’s age is correlates with the number of sex toys she owns..’
Normally, I would have replied w/ my own feeble attempts to use an online dating but this would have proven anemic in contrast. Excuse me while I go somewhere to have a laughing fit…
Life in the Boomer Lane
August 12, 2015
I love your enthusiasm, Geeze. Do you have connections in the world of journalism or the media? I’m still waiting to be discovered.
geezenslaw
August 13, 2015
Since this posting was particularly entertaining I have to truthfully say the timeliness of reading this posting intersected with the timing of the 2 glass 3 dollar cab buzz that came on at just about the time the punchlines were hitting me. I’ve been kicked out of bars for laughing. Notwithstanding, I do believe standup comedy can be attained the same someone improves their writing skills. Choose a few of your favorite comedy club types, print this post, find your full length mirror and practice until you are confident. Saunter down to the local comedy club on Tuesday night open mike and: let’er rip!
Life With The Top Down
August 12, 2015
I’ve heard the pros and cons from my friends on this subject. Some who have had very successful outcomes. But, I’m not going to lie, I’ve had some of my best laughs while listening to their “bad date” stories, so I encourage my friends to keep it up for my entertainment.
Life in the Boomer Lane
August 12, 2015
Online dating doesn’t work for everyone, but if you get laughs out of their experiences, that’s worth it! My friend Susan could write a book.
Life With The Top Down
August 13, 2015
I have one of those friends too! She recently met a keeper and that is a good thing.
Jane Newton Henry
August 12, 2015
Let me try that reply again. I have posted a couple of my online eating experiences. My friends, also, are entertainment by my online dating stories. Most of this stuff — you couldn’t make it up if you tried. It gives new meaning to the adage that truth is stranger than fiction. I’m been online almost two years. I have met only a couple of nice guys.The rest were jerks. I’ll let you know if it works out for me. Being a boomer isn’t for sissies!
Life in the Boomer Lane
August 13, 2015
Keep me posted. I guess I was really lucky. I was online for several years, and only met one or two semi-jerks. The rest of the men were great, just not good matches for me. I had my own way of choosing men, and I suppose it worked.
gliderpilotlee
August 12, 2015
Don’t be a sissy, bad date stories, not much left to comment. LBL, thanks for your humor! Some years ago, I noticed women nationwide did
“word” searches. It could be an explanation of what “the guy” does. Like – pipe fitter – if fit shows up anywhere in a profile it’s a Nationwide blitz of response. The question: did you want a piece of pipe? I read several readers responses, thank you all.
Life in the Boomer Lane
August 13, 2015
Thanks. Someone could do a study of how words are used in searches like that. It would be fascinating.